How do I fit into their lives? How do they fit in mine? I'd get them to help around the house if they were my own kids, but since they're not, am I allowed to ask anything of them at all?

As someone who's part of a stepfamily themselves, maybe you've personally even wondered your own variation of the question, Where do I belong among this group of people I call family?

When a stepfamily is working toward the task of becoming WHOLE, it is mandatory for each person to settle into a specific Role Category within the Stepfamily Power & Influence Grid (SPIG)* (TM).

The SPIG* is a tool we've developed to help our clients clarify and communicate the rules, roles, and responsibilities expected of each family member. This clarity contributes to the development of trust and safety required for a stepfamily to function as a healthy, balanced entity.

Should a divorced parent help their ex-spouse change a tire? What level of influence should a co-parent maintain over their children's other house, if any? Are stepparents entitled to hold positions of power when it comes to their stepchildren, or is that only for biological parents?

These are some of the big questions we help clients sort through every single day, because every single person on this planet deserves to live in a home where they feel loved, respected, and accepted for who they really are. Find out more about the products and services we offer our stepfamily clients by booking a complementary 30-minute consult, here.

May you rest in the softness and peace of becoming at home in yourself.